About me 👩🏻‍🎓
Hi, I am Iris (she/her). I am Chinese in my early 30s—This is the age when I feel that I am finally walking towards maturity. I am currently a postdoctoral scholar in the US and pursuing M.A. in clinical psychology. I enjoy and have a strong passion for self exploring and self understanding. I am constantly seeking for similar souls.
This is my blog space—my paradise where I can be who I am, and I am trying to find out more about myself. I write about my personal experience, my feelings, and my thoughts in both English and Chinese. To make this space sacred, “therapeutic” and free, I intentionally hide my personal identification. I hope that my identity can be kept in private. If you like me or like my posts, I am happy to make friends online and I would appreciate if you do not try to find out who I am in real life.
Career change:
More than a decade of scientific training has fulfilled my intellectual curiosity and honed my analytical skills. Alongside this external journey, I've been traveling inward—through introspection, self-reflection, and the ongoing expansion of my emotional capacity. In this process, I discovered a profound passion for depth psychology, a field that offers both intellectual richness and emotional depth. I find deep beauty in its ability to hold the complexity of human experience and to cultivate a life of meaning and authenticity.
Depth psychology resonates deeply with me because I experienced transference long before I knew what it was. Certain relationships stirred intense emotions and unmet longings that didn’t quite make sense—until I began learning how our early relational patterns shape our inner worlds. This personal experience sparked a deep desire to understand how early relational wounds continue to shape our lives. Our attachment styles, formed through early caregiving, influence how we seek closeness and how we protect ourselves from emotional pain. Childhood trauma can leave lasting imprints on how we see ourselves and connect with others. Often operating beneath our awareness, defense mechanisms help guard us from vulnerability—but they can also stand in the way of deeper intimacy and emotional growth.
Through this journey, I was captivated by dream analysis, free association, and the therapeutic relationship itself as ways to access the unconscious and uncover deeper layers of the self. Within the therapeutic frame, I came to value the relationship with the therapist as a powerful space—a holding environment where emotional safety makes exploration and healing possible. It is through this relationship that we learn to feel, to tolerate, and to connect more deeply—with ourselves and with others.
What draws me most is the commitment this path demands: the willingness to face one’s own internal world with honesty, humility, and courage. I am deeply drawn to personal growth and to the challenges that come with real emotional transformation. I believe that the complexity of the human psyche, the courage to be vulnerable, the pursuit of emotional truth, and the capacity to connect deeply with another person—these are not only therapeutic ideals, but core human values. They are the very things that make life rich, real, and worth living. ​ This isn’t just about therapy—it’s about how I want to live. I long for a world where we dare to show up fully with one another, where the ways of relating we practice in the therapy room—curiosity, honesty, slowness, and care—can infuse everyday life. For me, the courage to be vulnerable and the ongoing pursuit of emotional truth are not just parts of my professional path; they are the very meaning of my life. I want to live in a way that makes space for emotional honesty—for the beauty and the pain of being fully human. It is through real connection—with ourselves and with each other—that I feel most alive.
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It’s the choices we made that make us who we are.
Come if you know how to feel. Come if you know how to stay. Come if you have grown into wanting what is real.
“From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly, so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends for granted. I wish you bad luck, again, from time to time so that you will be conscious of the role of chance in life and understand that your success is not completely deserved and that the failure of others is not completely deserved either. And when you lose, as you will from time to time, I hope every now and then, your opponent will gloat over your failure. It is a way for you to understand the importance of sportsmanship. I hope you’ll be ignored so you know the importance of listening to others, and I hope you will have just enough pain to learn compassion. Whether I wish these things or not, they’re going to happen. And whether you benefit from them or not will depend upon your ability to see the message in your misfortunes.”