My Relationship with Menstruation May 29, 2017

(this was originally a post on Imzy’s Menstruation Station community)

Hey, I hit the join button very quickly when I saw this is an all gender-inclusive community about mentruation!

I just thought I’d introduce myself and my slightly unusual relationship with mentruation.

I am a full time full service sex worker (or escort) in my early 30s from the UK and so obviously having a period would be a bit of a job killer!

I do however have a few little tricks that stop me having to lose too much work.

Firstly I am on the pill and I run my packs together for as long as my body will allow, I usually get spotting after about 3 months so I know to take a break and let nature take it’s course. If I don’t take the break then the spotting will carry on unpredictably without a break which is inconvenient!

Due to being on the pill, my period/withdrawal bleed is much lighter and way less painful than before I started taking it, so this helps a lot with feeling up to working.

Also I swear by Beppy Sponges, which are synthetic sponge tampons that you just stuff up in there and they go unnoticed during sex etc and prevent any messy accidents!

I once had a client who saw me once a week for a few months and then made a comment about how I had never turned down a booking due to being on my period (a bit personal but y’know!) and I said it was because I run my pills together and didn’t let on that if I had been bleeding during a booking I would’ve had a sponge to keep things clean!

Anyway, that’s how I deal with my periods, if I could turn them off forever I would — I plan not to ever have children so it’s not like it’s serving much purpose in my life apart from inconvenience and expense!

Heated pads and chocolate to anyone currently dealing with their period ❤

Comments from original post and my responses:

Hi and welcome! :)

When I was younger I always wanted my period to go away and just go away forever. Then my ovaries started misfunctioning and now I’m grateful when I see the blood LOL

I never heard of Beppy Sponges but they sound interesting. Do you push them in like tampons or do they have to rest higher, closer to the cervix? I’m trying to picture how they work.

You have to push the sponge right up near the cervix, so it catches the blood before it comes down too far!

That is incredibly interesting!! Can you swim with them, do they hurt?

Yeah one of their big advertising points is that you can swim with them — which can be difficult with traditional tampons — I haven’t tried it myself but they are very good at preventing leaks even under, um, trying circumstances so I would definitely do so.

I’ve not found them to cause me pain, they can get pushed up a bit high so they can be difficult to remove but that’s about it — as you can see they have a little hole which you’re supposed to grab to pull it out, but it can take a few minutes of fiddling — I can imagine someone with long/fake nails have a lot of issues!

Just as an addition, a note about sponges in general in case someone here doesn’t know:

Don’t use sea sponges/”natural sponges”! When tested, they are usually found to include random bits of dirt with unhelpful/dangerous bacteria etc, including the stuff that causes toxic shock syndrome.

And if you have other sponges that are advertised as reusable, be aware that while lying around to dry, they provide rather good growing conditions for stuff that you don’t want in your vagina.

Yep this is very true — Beppy are synthetic and single use only, and carry all the usual ratings that standard tampons have to have.

The very thought of using a sea sponge or reusing any sponge to put in my vagina makes me cringe so hard I can’t believe any tries it!